Thursday, March 24, 2005
Mawwiage
This isn't going to be a profound discussion on marriage.
I once asked my mother if she was bothered that I hadn't found a girl and settled down. She's in her early 70's at this point, me being the youngest. She has a bunch of grandkids from the oldest 3, and the youngest three are all unmarried, without kids. (I can set you up with my sister or brother, if you live in the SF area...er...both are hetro, I think.) Strange how I'm second-guessing on that. Extremely likely, but hey.
Getting back to Mom. She's arrived at the conclusion that the youngest ones probably wouldn't get married. You see, she and our departed dad hooked up in or around the end of high school. They didn't have a lot of life experiences, so they grew up together. All of the experiences that one had, the other had, leading to similar ideas on everything. So, if all goes according to her thinking, I'll be alone - which bothers her, but there's nothing she can do about it. (Thanks for backing off. - Actually that statement is strictly for your benefit and mine, as she is anti-internet savvy.)
The topic comes up from my oldest nephew getting married. And...apparently a girl I knew okay at one point (different marriages). I think I wasn't able to devote enough time to her - not saying anything bad, but she knew what she wanted, and I wasn't going to have enough time for that. My nephew is marrying a girl of another faith - not bad, as most of the family on both sides are non-religious. I'm super happy for him and his fiancee - they're both cool and fun.
So, marriage? My friend is getting married a year from now. Wow. There was a point that I think I made a...choice, that shaped what I had with her. I think, for the better. She's been dating her boy almost 2 years at this point. Charging him rent, even, to live in her townhouse. A little odd, but it's two consenting adults.
Wish you all luck with you and yours.
I once asked my mother if she was bothered that I hadn't found a girl and settled down. She's in her early 70's at this point, me being the youngest. She has a bunch of grandkids from the oldest 3, and the youngest three are all unmarried, without kids. (I can set you up with my sister or brother, if you live in the SF area...er...both are hetro, I think.) Strange how I'm second-guessing on that. Extremely likely, but hey.
Getting back to Mom. She's arrived at the conclusion that the youngest ones probably wouldn't get married. You see, she and our departed dad hooked up in or around the end of high school. They didn't have a lot of life experiences, so they grew up together. All of the experiences that one had, the other had, leading to similar ideas on everything. So, if all goes according to her thinking, I'll be alone - which bothers her, but there's nothing she can do about it. (Thanks for backing off. - Actually that statement is strictly for your benefit and mine, as she is anti-internet savvy.)
The topic comes up from my oldest nephew getting married. And...apparently a girl I knew okay at one point (different marriages). I think I wasn't able to devote enough time to her - not saying anything bad, but she knew what she wanted, and I wasn't going to have enough time for that. My nephew is marrying a girl of another faith - not bad, as most of the family on both sides are non-religious. I'm super happy for him and his fiancee - they're both cool and fun.
So, marriage? My friend is getting married a year from now. Wow. There was a point that I think I made a...choice, that shaped what I had with her. I think, for the better. She's been dating her boy almost 2 years at this point. Charging him rent, even, to live in her townhouse. A little odd, but it's two consenting adults.
Wish you all luck with you and yours.
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